Ep138 The 6 mindset blocks Millionaire Women have mastered.

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I am so lucky that my days are spent with super successful women. And so I get to hear their thoughts, their dreams, and of course, their fears. And I was asked recently, what do you think sets the successful women apart? And I went away. And I thought about that for a while, and I came up with six main mindset blocks that I see millionaire women I know have mastered. And when I say mastered, it's not like you reach this magical line where you're like, Okay, from here on in, I have all my stuff together. Sure, it fades sometimes. And, you know, there's more personal development work to be done to get back to where we want to be. You know, I know is it Zig Ziglar that said, the, the quote of you know, he recommends personal development to be like a shower, take it daily. I do think that that is one of the main, the main keys, but there are similarities that I say the women who have done really well have together. And so today, I'm sharing those with you on the her Empire Builder podcast.

Hello, I'm Tina Tower, and you're listening to her Empire Builder. For my first decade of business, I thought grinding and hustling and working harder than everyone else was my path to success. It was pretty successful by a lot of measures, but it led to burnout and adrenal fatigue. Then when I travelled around the world, on my family gap year, I discovered the simplicity and the reach of online business. And I completely fell in love. You have so much knowledge and expertise that's within, and I want to help you to package that.

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Welcome to Episode 138. It is so so good to have you here with me today. This week is launch week for my book Million Dollar Micro Business globally. So for my beautiful listeners that are in Australia and New Zealand, you have had it since July 1, but the US and Canada and the rest of the world August 9, so it is a launch week globally. So I'm so happy that it's gonna be out in the world. And I want to say thank you to everyone who has shared it with their friends, I appreciate you so much. And it's just been the most incredible ride so far. And I can strongly say if you've ever thought about writing a book, go for it. And I'm going to do an episode later, probably late September, early October about the writing process and publishing or self publishing and all things book related. So look out for that one. But today, what I want to talk to you about is the six mindset blocks that millionaire women have mastered. And this is when I was writing the notes for this episode, I was like oh my gosh, this is it is big. And I think it is one of the hardest things in terms of a lot of these are a rite of passage. It's not things like like, you can't come at the beginning of the business journey and go, you know what, I'm gonna listen to these six things and just, I'm gonna decide overnight, right I've got them, I'm gonna get them mastered now, so many of them, you know, it's a process. It's not when I was going over them. And I've been thinking about this episode, like actually taking notes for it for about two months, because it's an important one to me. And it's something that I think you know, there's a few things in this that I'm talking about that I like, Oh, I don't know if I want to share that. Because a lot of it is my my insecurities also. But you know what, that's what is most helpful as well. And I know that if I'm going through it, it's highly likely you're going through it as well. And it's it's not something that is like, okay, we've reached this line that we're all good now. It's a constant process. And you know, for a lot of us, especially what I find with highly ambitious women that are high achieving, we've got some some personal shit fuelling us to you know, there's always like the onion, you peel back the layers and you find these things and a lot of things that we think we've dealt with in life, we get to a different stage and something will come up in some sort of self sabotaging behaviour and you go, huh, where did that come from? And it's something that we thought we were completely over and it rears its head again, and you've got to go back and work through it all again, or really question what those beliefs are around that certain behaviour so that you can be the best version of yourself or the version of yourself that you truly want to be. And I think that's, that's what success is, to me is living the life that I truly want to live. And being who I truly at my heart of hearts want to be. And that is really all we can ask ourselves. But I, yeah, so, I wanted to preface it with that. Okay, so I've got the six mindset blocks. Now, these are things that, you know, like I said, in the intro, I'm very lucky, I get to spend my days with successful women. And so I get to hear what they're working on what they're struggling with what they're doing really well and hear those breakthroughs. And these are the things that, you know, a lot of people do have have those commonalities and have those things that we need to break through. And I noticed that when people do break through these things, or kind of go to that level up, and these are the things that kind of feel like, I know, you've probably been through it before, when you feel like you've got a lot of resistance, like you're about to break through to that next level of life, that next level of business, the things that you've always wanted to and he likes this so close, you can feel it, you can taste it, it's right there. And it's usually one of these six things that you have to kind of master before you can break through and kind of go up to that and go, Okay, I'm at that next level now. And I've felt that time and time again, you know, whenever I kind of want to get into that next impact level, or that next income level, I'll kind of get there and I feel this resistance like, Yeah, I just can't, can't quite get there. And it's because what got you here won't get you there. And that repeats itself again, and again. And again. And again, where you know, you do the things that you need to do when we behave in a certain way to get us through that stage. But then when you want to level up, all those are thrown out the window, you then have to master that next stage to level up and to go up again. 

So number one is boundaries. Number one, and I think it is oh my gosh, one of the hardest things because Hands up if you're a people pleaser, hello, I see you. I walk this journey with you. Look, my worst feeling in the world is someone being mad at me. Like that is like I can cope with pretty much everything. Except when someone’s mad at me. Or if I've disappointed someone like those to go go hand in hand. I never want to fall short of someone's expectations. If I want to exceed every single time, I always want to surprise and delight and have people love me and go, oh my gosh, Tina, she's so kind and so generous and so wonderful. Like that is what I try and cultivate. But you try too hard to be a people pleaser. And it's gonna lead to one inevitable occurrence. And that is burnout. And we have all been there. I don't think I know a woman over 30 who has not hit burnout at some point in her life where she's like, hang on a minute. This boundaries thing that people talk about, I think I think I think I need that. Yeah.

So we kind of have to go through this, this stage of dropping people pleasing. Now dropping people pleasing does not mean that you no longer care what people think. I listen to obviously, I'm very much into personal development and listen to a lot of it. And sometimes I'll hear people say like, I don't care at all what other people think of me. And I'm not sure if I'm, you know,

really, I kind of go really at all? I don't know if I'll ever be evolved to that level. Actually, I don't know if I ever want to be to that level, I always want to have a level of caring going. You know, I do care about what people think. But I can interpret that differently. Because when people are judging you, it's often more about them than it is about you. So for me though, it's going how I really had to implement boundaries and how I've seen a lot of my clients and my peers have to implement boundaries is the hardest part is not feeling like an asshole. When somebody reaches out to you. Like even, you know, take Instagram for example. Instagram messages, fantastic. So good for connecting with your clients, connecting with potential clients, building relationships, doing all of that, but it's a double edged sword. The more you open up on there and open the lines of communication, the more people will communicate with you. And since my book has come out, I get tonnes of DM’s and people telling me you know, I want to leave my job and do this or I want to do this in my business or giving me their whole course outline or their office structure. What do I think about this and, and, and I spent like the first two weeks replying to everything. Going, Okay, well, this is what I can do. And I would send a voicemail back like a voice message back, because I'm going I just my thumbs were actually I got like RSI in my hand from typing. And so I was like, Okay, I'm going to do the voice memo, because then that's going to be a quicker way. And I can give people, the answer is nice and quickly. But then I'd send like a 30 second voice memo. And then five minutes worth would come back to me, I'm like, Oh, no, I unleashed a beast here. But I didn't want to not get back to people, because I didn't want people to think that I didn't care. And so I had to really come up with these boundaries and going, Okay, this is where my limit is. And when people ask for business advice, my duty, I know who my job is to serve, right? It's my paying customers. And so when people aren't paying me, it's okay to have a conversation, it's okay to have those little bits. But for that, if it goes that next level, where it's like strategic business advice, which is my job, then I'll just send a link and go, Hey, this is where you can book in a coaching call, or this is the course that can help you with that. And that is not being an asshole, that is having the boundaries and going, you know what time and energy is your most finite resources. And so you've got to be able to protect those. And I think that, you know, like I said before, what gets you here won't get you there, there does come a limit where, you know, you start your business, and you're answering everyone, you're actually trying so hard to get engagement to get those messages coming through. But then the volume will get as such that you go, Okay, I now need a new set of rules, so that I can cope with this volume and still serve the people that it's my job to serve. They're paying me to serve them. And they're the ones that deserve your maximum energy and your maximum time. So you don't want to max out on the people that are just trying to, like get as much free stuff from you as possible. So having boundaries is okay, you are safe to have boundaries in place. So that is one with boundaries with other people. And then it's what you say yes to? So like, I've had the thing all year, if it's not a hell, yes, it's a no. And that has been really hard for me, because I think a lot of mine, you know, as I've worked on a lot of money mindset and blocks that I have, I still have a little bit of a broke girl mentality in terms of, I remember vividly what it feels like to have no money. And so for me, whenever I go to say no to something, if someone's asking me to do a speaking engagement, or private coaching, and my calendar is so full, and I'm so exhausted, and I go to say no. And it's like they're paying me 1000s of dollars to do something and I'm going to say no, because I'm tired. Five years ago me wants to kick my ass. She’s like What?

You can't say no to that this is everything you've worked well, like you How dare you have the audacity to say no, you get to work girl, right? That is the old me in my mind. But I know that in 10 years time me if I don't have the boundaries, now, she will kick my ass because I will be like fat and broken and tired and adrenal fatigued. And so there comes a limit now where I go, okay, it's okay to say no. And for me, a lot of that was letting go of that, you know, how dare I lose that opportunity that I've fought so hard to have. But also letting go of the fear that if you put some boundaries in place that are all won't stop, that is a big thing that I see successful women go through is going Hang on, if I take my foot off the gas for just one minute, it's all going to come crashing around me. And I want to tell you, it's not it's actually going to speed up. So you've got to learn those boundaries if you want to continue on and if you want to grow, and then we come into switching off with the boundaries as well. So one of the best things that I've done this year is get a second phone. And that is, you know, something that I was like what I'm not going to do that but I started switching off so I spent about a month in a row of switching off on weekends. So on a Friday, I would turn my phone off and I'd get it back on a Monday but what I found was friends were trying to reach out to me and I was missing them. My kids friends were trying to organise playdates I didn't see them. So I was like, Okay, I kind of need to be switched off to work but still have my personal on. So I got an additional phone. And that has been game changing for me. I don't have Facebook on there. I do have Instagram on there if I feel like it on the weekends, but most of the time, it's it's like a switch off Friday, Saturday, Sunday. And on a Thursday, I put an autoresponder on my emails to say, Hey, I am off until Monday, I only check emails Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, but in the meantime, my assistant is going to be in there checking them. And so what that enables me to do is feel my energy back up again, because I give out so much energy. And so many women that are in in service are giving out energy, just one, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. But if you want anything left for the next week, and the next week, or the next week, and this is remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint, if you want to play the long game with it, then you need to manage that and you need to be able to switch off you need to be able to hang out with your fam bam and have some fun in there as well. And this is where I've said this quote before on the podcast, I don't know if you've heard it. But when I saw Oprah, I'd like to say Oprah in concert. She's not a musician. So I don't think it was a concept. But when she did her to her for her book, what I know for sure. And she was talking about boundaries. And she said something that I absolutely loved. Because for me, I didn't want boundaries meant like, I had this real fear around, you know, people would think, oh, she's just too good for me is she what she's got too big for a booth. She's just going up. And now she's got no time or energy to talk to us. Like, I didn't want that. That was the big fear that was playing in my head. And the Oprah quote, she said, you can have a big open heart and a huge fucking fence. And I was like, What? That is awesome. So number one, boundaries. 

Okay, number two, in the six things, is not doing everything. Another one, that's probably easier said than done. This is actually my easiest one. Because, you know, I don't like cooking and cleaning. And it's not been something I've done for many, many years. And I don't feel bad about it at all. And the one of the most common things that women say to me is do you not feel like guilty or no, zero? None. Like, no. So you know, my kids have been helping around the house since they started primary school. So since they were five, my my husband's done all the cooking I do one night a week. Like, I think that being open to receiving help is so important. So dropping that martyrdom, so many women, like mother as a martyr in going, you know, like you'd like where that stress as a badge of honour. And you know, don't be that don't be the hero, like just totally drop it. Go. It's okay, because joy is more important than stressing yourself out. And we can't do everything. If you want to set the world on fire with your work. If you want to do amazing big great things, then, you know, there's only a certain amount of time and energy and you have to choose really consciously what you're going to give that to. And look, if you love cooking, cook, definitely. But the parts that you don't love, like when you're going throughout your day, if there's parts where you like, don't want to do less, don't do it. Like you there are alternatives. And I think that, you know, what I say a lot of really successful people do is they simply go You know what, this doesn't bring me joy. It's okay. We like it's Yeah, a little bit of spoilt-shit. But you know, you can, it doesn't mean that you're a spoiled shade, it means that you can accept that you don't have to do everything, you're not in this journey alone, you can allow other people to do their job to look after you so that you can do your job. And that's the biggest thing. And you've got to know when to stop. Right. And so a big part of it is, you know, switching off, and this is the conversation I have with people all the time, and it's something that I'm working on myself right now is going and I think you know, with the world being in lockdown so much as well, this has actually got harder because there's not, you know, not so much life going on outside like we're not travelling, we're not going out so much. And so before we used to switch off and go and do those fun things, but now a lot of people are going well, there's nothing else to do. So I may as well just keep working. And when you don't stop, it means that you're going to get burned down and the quality is going to drop and sometimes you can think well if I work 20 hours, it's going to be better than working 10 but often when you're going that 20 you're getting tired, you don't even realise it and so you've got to know when to stop and take guilt free rest. And actually doing less this has been the most interesting thing to me is actually doing less achieves more and I used Just read things about that and go, Oh, bullshit. And it is been like the revelation of this year is going whenever I do less whenever I do really focused work and then go, Okay, I'm going to stop there, the more I kind of push back, the more I insert those boundaries, the more I allow other people to do it and create space, the more that space is filled with big things. So one of the affirmations I've been saying to myself all year is like, I no longer have space for the little things. I'm only open for the big opportunities universe, I look forward to seeing what you deliver me. So that's something I've been saying like over and over again. And the more I say no to the little things, the more these big things keep coming. I'm like, Okay, okay, I get like Enough already. And so you've got to stick to not doing everything, because then when you fill your days, with all of those little things, there is no space for those big opportunities to come into your life. And so the more you can create that space, trust me at won't be spacious for long, stick to not doing everything. 

Number three, surround yourself with expanders. Now what I mean by expand as he's having a great tribe, that opens your mind up to what's possible. It's one of the main reasons I love my mastermind. So my masterminds, Her Empire Builder, which you know, you know, opening in September in one month's time, actually, if you are interested in knowing about that, go to herempirebuilder.com because there's going to be some early things for people on the waitlist. But surrounding yourself with expanders is game changing. Because if you if you feel like,

you know, who you surround yourself does really make a very big difference in terms of your ambitions in terms of what's normal in terms of what you accept for yourself, what your attitudes are, what your beliefs are, all of those different things are shaped by the people around you. And, you know, for me, I was going a couple of months ago, I was in the stage I was going maybe, maybe I should just chill out a little like, do I have to go bigger? Do I want to go bigger? Should we just stay here? Like, I'd lost a little bit of that drive, which isn't always such a bad thing. But I was really going like, what do I want to do going forward. And I was feeling like, I was thinking a bit too big. And a lot of people around me were kind of going wow, like, you know, you might want to tone it down a little. And then I got together with this group of women that, you know, oh my gosh, they're all pushing eight figures. And I was thinking so small, and seeing what was possible for them. I'm just like, Oh, my gosh, I got off. So pumped. And that's what a really good mastermind actually does for you. But for me, you know, I really wanted to, I want to show what's possible to people. So, you know, like you probably did as well start from nothing. And a lot of what I've been through, I'm going cash, like, it's an unlikely story, like girls like me just don't make a future like this. And so there's a big mind adjustment in going Hang on, this is the life we have. And this is the life we can create. And this is real. This is something that we can we can dream of, and we can create. And it's not something that is just like this fictitious thing in our imagination, it's actually here. And you can make that. And, you know, it's one of those things that you've got to be able to have your group to share with I mean, I said after I hit seven figures, I wouldn't talk about figures anymore. So I wouldn't do you know, podcast episode on, you know how much I made that year, or how much I made from that launch, because I just didn't want to look like I was always going, Oh my gosh, we just made more in a day than I have in a month and get that tall poppy syndrome of people ripping it down. But, I do think that you need your group to be able to share that with if it's not publicly, find your group where you can be proud of what you're achieving, and that they can cheer you on to go bigger to make a bigger impact to do better than you were before. And so I think that's a really big thing. So find that so that you can start, you know, imagining what is realistic for you in a big way. Because a lot of people I mean, this year, we did so much better than what we anticipated. And now I have a massive tax issue because I wasn't thinking big enough. How we finished June and I was like oh my gosh, like had I known we were going to do that. I would have put so many other things in place before the financial year finished. But I just didn't think, or I just didn't think of it. But now with the women that I have surrounding me, I can look at team and systems and boundaries and energy and office and everything around and going. Okay, so if I was to do a $5 million year, what would that look like? What would I have to set up for that so that I can be prepared for it. And I wouldn't think like that if I didn't have expanders in my life. So that's a, that's a big thing in there as well. So that is three. 

So we've got boundaries, not doing everything surrounding yourself with expanders four is managing your money. Now, I say this, because I don't like a lot of what I'm talking about right now is mindset stuff. I'm talking about the tangible, I'm talking about, read about it, learn about it, grow it know it. Like, you've got to know your figures. I mean, I start simple. One of my favourite magazines is Money Magazine. You know, I've been reading it for years and years and years and years and years. Every month, I read a lot of books about finances, because you don't know until you read it. Like we don't know about different investments and what ETFs are and shares and property and what trends in the market are doing and and what we should do with our money. You know, one of the ladies that I was talking to a couple of weeks ago, and she says, I've got more than a million dollars sitting in cash in the bank. And I'm like, What you got? What was

that? I was just like, what, why have you not invested that? And she was too scared to touch it. Like literally had made that money and was going, I don't know like, will it go in tax? Will it go in this? Like, should I spend it should I touch I'm literally too scared to touch it. Knowledge is power. So I want you to really start learning about money as soon as possible in going okay, when I get this part, what am I going to do with it and I am not a fan of like Paul Ramsey's, don't drink your cappuccino and save your $4 like figure out how you can make more money to invest and live the life that you want to lead. Mel Browne has my favourite money course. So she has My Financial Adulting plan that teaches you all about investing chairs, property, everything, bank accounts, all the different things that you can do. So look that up. It's Melissa Brown with an e.com.au I'll put it in the show notes as well. But if you if you kind of don't have money, education, start start educating now like, should you be buying commodities like it's all so much fun. I remember the first time I bought gold. I was like, oh, fun. But I wouldn't have known that if I hadn't have read like all Money Magazine. And so you know, don't don't not know what you want to do with it know what you want to do with it know all the tax rules so that you can not evade tax, definitely you want to be a tax payer and contribute to that, like tax is a privilege. And the more tax that you pay, the better you're doing, which I love. But you also don't want to pay unnecessarily. And so you want to make sure that you're aware of everything there as well. 

Next one is serve others massive value. It really is. I mean, I know that that sounds like a duh. But it is the one that you go, the more successful you make other people, the more successful you will be. And it doesn't matter what industry you're in. If you bring others joy and success, you will get joy and success. And for me, I went you know when you know I mentioned just before that I was really in this stage of going well, what do I want this to look like? How big do I want this to go? And I kind of had to think about that around, okay, well, if I keep it small, I see the results that my clients are getting. And they're amazing. You know, it's it's really making such an impact, changing their lives, changing the whole story of what they're capable of, it's so many different things. And I want to help more people, I want more people to be able to have that impact. I want more people to be able to, you know, women to become the breadwinners of their families and have more freedom of choice and, you know, just live the life that they've always dreamed of. And so I need to grow. And that's kind of where I see so many millionaire women get to is going well, you know what, it's not so much about the money anymore, and it's not so much about me anymore. It's about the impact and I wholeheartedly believe in that. And you know, when you it's no longer about the money and you go I just want an enriched life that makes me feel fulfilled and alive and matters. That is like the turning point there. Because the unfair part is when you need the money you can't help but have like Like a little undercurrent of desperation, it's really hard to shake off like, I always know, especially when I was in sales, like selling franchises in my previous business and when we were like, if I don't sell one this quarter like we are in some serious financial trouble, it was so hard because even though no matter what I tried to do a whatever you framed it like there was that like, that, like unspoken. I mean, we humans are clever, we've got sparkly bits that talk to each other, that there's, there's so much that we pick up from other people that is unsaid. And so there was like these, these, these little bit of desperation in there that was so hard, and then on quarters were like, you know, I was fine, they would just come rolling in. And I was like, Where were you when I so desperately needed you. And I'm sure you've been in that situation yourself before. And it's kind of like that, that, you know, I spent a whole lot of years very broke, you know, living, Gosh, like, if I had more than 100 bucks in the bank account, I was stoked thing going on, or the money now.

But it's incredible how much when you need the money, it doesn't come and and then you get to the stage where you no longer need it. And it all just comes flowing in like more money and creates more money. And so I want you to get to that stage. And a lot of it is from chasing your clients success, you chase their success and only worry about the impact that you're making on other people and customer success, you will get there so much quicker. And then you're able to support the people that you love and the causes that you care about and have experiences and adventures with your people. It's amazing. There's a Zig Ziglar quote, is the second time I’ve used Zig. He’s one of the classics. That says if you want to accomplish your goals, find a way to help everyone accomplish theirs first. And that I love because I just think I'd like wholeheartedly believe in that. And so this brings me to our final one, which is work on your beliefs. 

And this is what a lot of people talk about your money mindset programmes. And so I think there's a lot of value in doing them. Denise Duffield, Thomas has money boot camp, which addresses a lot of this stuff, which is really, really important. I recently read a book called Rich as Fuck, that was surprisingly good. I was like, do I really want to read this? It was really good. And one of the things that she talked about was an energetic set point, which really resonated with me and going What do you think is normal? And how can you normalise what you do? And for me, I keep going you know, my my private coaching has gone up a lot because I just kept getting more and more. And I was running out of time and going oh my gosh, I literally cannot handle any more time on zoom. I mean, I was zooming for like 30 hours a week. And I'm going I have not built this business and worked like this to spend my life on zoom. Right? And so I kept raising the price. And then I was all like, Oh my gosh, like this has got too high. Now what am I gonna do? And then I read her book and she was like $100,000 for six months of coaching. Okay, set points, what we think is normal. Now I'm not saying like, like, raise it right up. But it's interesting to observe what is normal for you? What do you think is cheap? What do you think is expensive? What are you comfortable with? What is the buffer in your bank account that you go, once you get under this certain amount, your heart starts pounding. But once you get above a certain amount, you're like, Oh my gosh, I've got like so much extra money should I spend this on something like looking at as set points I think is you know, when I read that I was like, This is good. And since I've been noticing where my set points are in all different types of things and going, looking at launches, what do I think is normal? And then amazingly, that's what we keep getting? What if I was to triple that? What if I was to quadruple that? How would that look? What would I have to do differently? So you know, it's looking at the beliefs there. And for me, this is a big thing that I'm working on at the moment. Because previously I've linked money to stress like all of my emotions with money was stress because I never had enough of it. So you know it's I've been saving and holding money and and being afraid of it with with taxes and with judgments and you know, not wanting to tell people that we have money because oh my gosh, will they judge us and think that were asshole wankers now and then get all of the different things that happen in our in our wonderfully complex and beautiful minds. But I do think that money comes to you when you're ready for it not when you're overwhelmed and stressed. And so you have to prepare for that and this is also what I'm talking about earlier with boundaries, is creating the space for the big opportunities is also trying to eliminate and look, I am not I am a realist, I am very pragmatic I by no means think you can just click your fingers and go, you know what, I'm fine. Now I'm going to take out overwhelming stress and just magically wake up and Swan throughout my day, especially when the world is like going to hell in a handbasket. And so I know that it's easier said than done. But desperation is the opposite of ready. So the more that you can try and you know, focus on what you do have and embrace that abundance and get ready for it. And I think the more you can send messages to the universe, that you're ready in terms of your education and knowing that when it comes in what you're going to do with it, how you're going to spend it, how you're going to save it, how you're going to give it back to charity, what you're going to do with that, I think is really important. And then it's looking at your beliefs around worthiness. Because I know that one of the most interesting things that I've seen through working with women in cost creation is when all their dreams come true. How much people wig out. And if you haven't been in this situation before, you may be thinking Why? And if you have, you'll be thinking, uh huh, yeah, I went there is going when you get all of the money, when it all comes in, you then feel like, Oh my gosh, do I deserve this? Like, where did all this come from? Am I good enough is and then you end up like completely over delivering and overwhelming your customers trying to justify the money that you have received. And so when you're looking at that and going, am I worthy of money? Am I a good enough human to deserve it? What I want you to look at is, you know, there are so many bad people with money, there are so many good people with money, there are so many broke people that are bad, there are so many broke people that are good, like they're at every level, money has nothing to do with money just simply amplifies who you are already. And so you've got to feel worthy, so that you were open to receiving it. And then so I wanted to share, you know, at the end a couple of my biggest money mindset blocks that I'm working on at the moment. And one of them is is it too good to be true? That is one that you know, I've seen a little bit of self sabotage come up in me a few times over the last couple of years in going. Is it too good? too good to be true, like a lot of us are taught if it's too good to be true, it probably is right? Thing is life is meant to be good. This is the thing life is meant to be good. What if we didn't have to sacrifice? What if we didn't have to struggle? And so that's really been something that I've been working on is going well, what if we could let go the hustle and the grind? What if it was easy? What would that look like? Is that even possible? Let's experiment. So I'm working a lot on that at my at the moment. I'm also working on right now. So I said, you know, I've been doing the picture of what would a $5 million year look like. Now I can't do five times more work than I'm when I'm doing what I'm doing now. I can't I can't do actually any more work than what I'm doing. Now, I've got to the stage that I said I would never get to. And this is the the downside of fast growth is I actually really wanted slow and steady growth. Because one of the biggest mistakes I made in my previous business was we grew massively in a in a 12 month period, we went up by 250%. And that was when the wheels kind of started coming off. And I never got him back on fully again. And so I've been really conscious of that this time going with this business, I want slow, steady growth for the long, the long game. And so over the past year, though, it's grown really fast. And of course, I have loved that I've been very conscious of that I have set up for that I'm very grateful for 17 years of business experience that has allowed me to hire fast, put systems automation everything in there. But it's also meant that I always intended this business to, you know, not take over my life. And that has not been the case the last few months. And so I've been going okay, if I want five times more revenue, how do I do that without doing five times more work? Is it possible? And so really looking at how to make that possible. And you know, I'll share that with you in a whole episode later because that's a big a big thing. But it's just one of the mindset things that I've been working on recently. And the other one is the more I give, the more I get. And I have had to really adjust that into value. Not Time. And so I still believe that the more I give, the more I get. And I've always believed that like, I think money is this energetic force, and it's not designed to be held on tight to that you're supposed to, you know, lend it, spend it, give it away, and it comes right back to you is one of the things that I say over and over again. And I do think that, but I need to change that to value not time. In going, the more I give value, the more I get, not the more time I put in, the more I get. Because we all know, it's finite, right? Anyway. Hopefully, that helps. That's our six things for money mindset. And I hope that today it sparks some things in your mind to go. Alright. So this is what millionaire women are working on at the moment. So where are you in that journey? And what resonated with you? And what's that next thing that you can kind of, not solve, not fix, but pay attention to? And that's what I think a lot of it is all about is going, what can we like pay attention to noticing our thoughts, noticing our beliefs and go? Is this helpful? Is this going to serve us to get to where we want to go? And that's how I like to look at a lot of the different different thoughts that I have. And how I noticed those limiting beliefs is to kind of observe them and go, Okay, do I want to keep this? Is this something that is going to help me live the life that I imagined for myself and my family? Or is it time to kind of reframe that one? And what would that look like if we did? So I hope for you that it's been helpful, and I hope that you can be one of these amazing millionaire women. 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